140 Intimate Questions for Relationships

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Have you ever got to the point where you are sitting across the table from someone and suddenly have no idea what to say? You stare awkwardly at each other and laugh nervously. You want to know more about them but don’t know what to ask them. Thinking of and producing meaningful conversations can be difficult for many people. Especially when they are put into stressful encounters or if anxiety makes it hard to relate to others. Here is a list of curated, intimate questions that you can use to get closer to those around you and develop deep relationships that are built on the knowledge of each other and trust in your shared experiences.


Intimate Questions to Ask a Girl


This list of questions is for guys to ask girls, whether they are friends or girlfriends. While some of these are not gender-specific, many girls would appreciate a guy taking the time to ask these types of intimate questions.


  1. If you could switch lives with someone, someone you know or not, who would it be and why?
  2. Do you want to be like your mother? Why or why not?
  3. What is your favorite quality of your oldest/youngest sibling?
  4. What is your best childhood memory?
  5. Who did you spend most of your time with as a child?
  6. Was your best friend growing up a boy or a girl?
  7. What was/is your best friend like?
  8. Do you consider yourself humble?
  9. Would you ever drive across the country just because you felt like it would be fun?
  10. Do you have a large or small family?
  11. Who is your closest family member?
  12. Who was the first person you kissed?
  13. Were you a girly-girl or a tom-boy growing up?
  14. Have you ever been unfairly singled out and punished for something you didn’t do?
  15. Are you hopeful about the rest of your life?
  16. Do you think the world will be a better place for our children or our children’s children?
  17. Have you ever practiced kissing using your hand?
  18. Did your parents ever sit you down to have “the talk”?
  19. Do you have any hidden talents or secret skills that no one or not many people know about?
  20. From your perspective what is the best gift you have ever given o someone you love?
  21. If your house caught on fire would you try to grab something on your way out and what would it be?
  22. What was the best piece of advice someone has ever given you and who was that person?
  23. What have past relationships taught you about love?
  24. Has your best friend always been the same person?
  25. Do you think you are more likely to suffer in silence when someone annoys you or more likely to try to remedy the situation to make life more bearable with them around?


Intimate Questions to Ask a Guy

These intimate questions are geared at the guys in our lives making them think deeper and give meaningful answers to some burning questions that women worldwide have about their innermost workings.


  1. Do you want to be like your father? Why or why not?
  2. What makes you get up every morning?
  3. What is your favorite hobby?
  4. Do you see yourself as an optimist or a pessimist?
  5. Do you feel that there is anything holding you back from achieving your dreams?
  6. Would it bother you if I made more money than you?
  7. If I gave you $10,000 right now, what would you spend it on and why?
  8. Do you feel like you forgive people easily or instead hold a grudge?
  9. What world leader, past or present, do you admire, and why?
  10. What is your most embarrassing habit?
  11. What is your most embarrassing moment in public?
  12. What is a guilty pleasure childish thing that you still do?
  13. What situation or person made you lose all respect for them?
  14. What kind of thing or things do you know how to do that a lot of people don’t usually know how to do?
  15. What are you most afraid of in this life?
  16. What was something that stressed you out that turned out to be no big deal?
  17. Are you worried about being a good father one day?
  18. Have you done anything to make the world a better place to live in?
  19. Who is your favorite author?
  20. Who or what will you always make time for, no matter what the time, situation, etc?
  21. What (if any) sacrifices have your parents made to make your life easier and better?
  22. Would you rather be remembered as a “real man” or a “good man” and why?
  23. If you could live forever, what would you spend your time doing?
  24. If you had the power to make every person on Earth believe the same thing, what would it be?
  25. What small things make you angry even though you know it shouldn’t bother you or it’s not that important?


Intimate Questions for Couples

Get to know each other a little bit better, whether you just got together or have been glued to each others’ sides for years.


  1. What is a quality of mine that is your favorite?
  2. What area of my life do you feel I am the most progressed in?
  3. Where would your ideal date be?
  4. Is quantity more important to you or quality?
  5. Are you an aggressive conversationalist or a passive observer?
  6. If you knew you only had one day left to live, how would you spend your last day?
  7. What is your first memory of me?
  8. When was the first time I made you smile?
  9. Do you consider yourself lucky to be in a relationship with me?
  10. Have you ever changed something about yourself for someone else?
  11. Do you believe couples should spend as much time together as possible or keep pretty separate lives until they have been together for a while?
  12. Do you believe romantic relationships should always be monogamous?
  13. Have you ever thought about cheating on your partner? Why or why not?
  14. Have you ever cheated on someone in a relationship with you in the past?
  15. Has anyone or did anyone try to stop you from being in a relationship with me?
  16. If you had the ability to change our relationship with just one word, what would you say?
  17. Does loving someone make it easier to forgive them when they hurt you or harder?
  18. If you could change one thing about me, what would it be and why?
  19. Do we have the same beliefs about faith/religion?
  20. Is it harder to achieve goals with someone else in your life because their needs are important too or harder to go it alone because you have no backup or support system?


Intimate Questions to ask Friends

Let’s get past the weather and form lasting friendships that we can all rely on. When you know someone, you love them.


  1. Would you be willing to stand in front of someone being beaten even if you didn’t know them?
  2. When was the last time you stopped to breathe and listen to the quiet around you?
  3. At what point do you believe you lost the last of your childlike innocence?
  4. Have you ever lied to get your way?
  5. Have you ever or do you currently have any reoccurring nightmares?
  6. Do you ever think people don’t like you?
  7. What is the weirdest/craziest dream you have ever had?
  8. Do you rehearse conversations over the phone before you make the call?
  9. In a friendship, what do you place the most importance on?
  10. Have you ever peed your pants, in a private or public setting?
  11. Have you ever experienced something supernatural?
  12. If you could pick one movie plot that the world could be more like, what movie would you pick and why?
  13. What is the most expensive item you have ever bought? Do you still have it?
  14. Would you drop everything and come if I called you upset needing support?
  15. Do you think good people can do bad things?


Intimate Questions to ask your Wife

She WANTS you to know about her. Every question you throw at her, you can bet she’s had the answer stored up there for many moons. So ask a few and see how brilliant she is and conscientious she is of what she knows and believes. Your wife is a superstar!


  1. Who has caused you the most hurt in your life?
  2. Where would you move if you could move anywhere in the world?
  3. What bothers you the most about your body?
  4. What is your favorite part of your body?
  5. If I died do you think you would remarry?
  6. What is one thing I can always do to make your day instantly better?
  7. Is there something you prefer me to do but never ask?
  8. Are you secure in my love for you?
  9. Would you consider adoption if we wanted to have kids?
  10. Where in your mind is the best place for a romantic vacation?
  11. Have I ever hurt you in a way that you haven’t forgotten or forgiven me for?
  12. What is one thing I do that continuously annoys you but that you find yourself doing sometimes as well?
  13. What is your favorite compliment that someone has ever given you?
  14. When was the last time (if ever) has a stranger made your day and what did they do that was so special?
  15. What do you wish someone would invent and why?

Intimate Questions to ask your Husband

Sometimes wives just want to know a little bit more so toss him one of these over steak and salad and let him mull it over while he chows down. Some of these are tough so don’t get trigger happy and nail him with a lot in a row. Let him take his time so you know that he feels deeply about each of his answers.


  1. If I was in a terrible accident and needed you to take care of me indefinitely, would you or would you find a nursemaid?
  2. Were you scared to ask me to marry you?
  3. Have you ever loved anyone before me?
  4. What is something you struggle with daily?
  5. What causes you the most stress?
  6. Who do you look up to as an example of a good man?
  7. Do you see yourself as a good man?
  8. Would you ever forgive me if I cheated on you but told you and was repentant? Could you ever trust me again?
  9. Would you ever apologize to me for something even if it wasn’t your fault?
  10. What are some of the things you think about when sitting on the toilet?
  11. If you came back as a ghost, who would you haunt and why?
  12. When you see a homeless person asking for money, food, or work, what is your gut reaction?
  13. If you could be the best in the world at one thing, what would it be and why?
  14. What is always the best part of your day?
  15. What do you think makes someone a good person?


Intimate Questions to Ask Before Marriage

Some things just cannot wait for after the ceremony. Dig in deep and get to know them before you go too far or else you might regret it for the rest of your life. These intimate questions will help flesh out the whole person.


  1. What moment caused you the deepest feeling of elation or joy in your lifetime?
  2. Have you ever given up on something?
  3. Have you ever given up on someone?
  4. Do you want children? Why or why not?
  5. Are you close with your family?
  6. If the situation presented itself, would your family let us move in with them?
  7. Do you feel you give more of yourself to others than what they give of themselves to you?
  8. Would you be willing to stay home with the kids while I go to work every day?
  9. If you could change one or more things about how you were raised, what would they be?
  10. Is there something you have longed to do for a long time but have never done? Why not?
  11. Have you ever sent intimate photos of yourself to someone? Who and why?
  12. If I was promoted but had to move to receive the job, would you be willing to move with me, leaving your friends and family behind?
  13. Do you believe we have jobs and earn money to just live day to day or that we should strive to reach the top of the ladder in whatever industry we are in so that we can be rich?
  14. Do you think ambition is a good or bad thing and why?
  15. Do you think money should be shared freely between married couples or that each person should have their own money and accounts?

Intimate Questions to ask When Falling in Love

Hopefully, these questions will help you fall even deeper in love with that dreamy person as you see how wonderful they are from their answers.


  1. Do you have a hero?
  2. Have you ever lied to protect someone you love?
  3. What was the first thing about me that made you smile?
  4. Do you like the sound of your own laughter?
  5. Do you have faith in something bigger than yourself?
  6. Do you believe people are made for each other or it is just luck of the draw?
  7. Do you try to do everything you can to make others happy?
  8. Do you believe there are some people who will never be happy or that those people just haven’t found what makes them happy yet?
  9. What one day of your life would you like to relive if you had the chance?
  10. Do you think opposites attract or that like-minded people are better off together?
  11. Is there anything about falling in love that scares you?
  12. Do you think that love is something that should be sought out or something that will happen when it happens?
  13. If I had to more very far away for some reason, would you attempt a long-distance relationship with me?
  14. When we are together, where is your favorite place for us to be?
  15. Have you ever had a question you were too afraid to ask? What is it?
  16. What’s an area of improvement needed in our relationship?
  17. How did you know you were in love with me and I was the one?
  18. Do you believe in love at first sight?
  19. Do you think people can fall in love quickly and have lasting relationships or that love must be cultivated over a longer period in order for a relationship to work out?
  20. What do you believe the line is between being close to someone and cheating on your partner with them?

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