When you first start dating someone, everything is new and exciting. You are going to want to spend all of your time with your guy getting to know him better, but this may not be what he wants. There are a lot of guys who like their space. He will want to spend time with you, but he is going to want to have time to do his own thing as well. This can be a hard pill to swallow, but if you want the relationship to work, you are going to need to give him his space.
Giving him his space doesn’t mean just sitting around, waiting for him to call. You can give him his space, but at the same time, you can do certain things to make sure that he misses you. If you follow the steps listed below, your guy is going to miss you, and he is going to want to see you more.
#1 Don’t Call Him Every Second
You can’t give your guy space if you are calling him and texting him every few minutes. If you have already decided that he is going to do his own thing on a particular day, you shouldn’t keep calling and texting. There is nothing wrong with sending a cute text once or twice during the day to let him know that you are thinking about him, but don’t get angry if he doesn’t want to have a long conversation. Sending him a sweet text to check-in will give him his space, and it will show him that you can respect his boundaries.
#2 Don’t Respond To His Texts Right Away
If your boyfriend sends you a text message, don’t always answer right away. If the text he sends is urgent and needs an immediate reply, by all means, answer him right away. If not, you should wait before answering him back from time to time. If you don’t respond right away, it will show him that you aren’t sitting around waiting for his call. This can make you look needy and clingy, which is a huge turnoff. Waiting to respond will put a little mystery in your relationship, and he will be missing you until you text him back. You just want to make sure that you don’t make him wait every time he calls or texts. Doing it too often will make him feel that you don’t care, and it can create trust issues in the relationship.
#3 Ignore Him When Necessary
If your boyfriend is acting distant or cold toward you, it is best to ignore him and give him his space. Chances are there is something going on with him that has nothing to do with you, and he needs time to get through it on his own. Forcing him to talk to you when he is feeling this way will only push him further away. If you are the reason that he is behaving this way, you should ignore him and give him a taste of his own medicine. If you ignore him until he calls you, you an give him the space he needs and a chance to miss you. He will realize this soon enough, and things will get back on track.
#4 Tell Him How Great Your Day Was
When your boyfriend calls after spending a couple of days apart, you don’t want him thinking that you have been sitting home alone pining over him the whole time. This won’t show that he loves you. Instead, it will make him think that you are needy and have no life outside of him.
When your guy finally calls, make sure that you sound happy and upbeat. Tell him about all of the fun that you had in the last couple of days. This will show him that you can have fun on your own, and he will wish that he was having fun with you. It will also prove that you are capable of giving him space.
#5 Make the Time You Spend Together Unforgettable
If your guy likes his space, you are going to need to make your time unforgettable. This is the best way to get him to miss you and to want to spend more time together. When he wants to spend time with you, do something fun together. Make sure that you are attentive and affectionate. While this is essential, you don’t want to overdo it. Being too attentive and affectionate can make him feel smothered. The key is to make him feel special and important when you are together and show him how fun you can be. When you aren’t together, he is going to miss the attention that you give him.
#6 Look Perfect
Just because your guy wants his space, it doesn’t mean that you should wallow in self-pity. Sitting home alone in sweats eating tubs of ice cream won’t help your cause. If you want him to start missing you and wanting less space, you need to look incredible. While he is out doing his thing and taking his space, you can be at the gym working out, making yourself look great. If you are friends on social media, you can take pictures of yourself looking great. This is going to make him miss you and want to see you more. It will also remind him of how happy you make him when the two of you are together. When he sees the hot pics of you, he won’t be able to resist.
#7 Don’t Be Too Available
Even though he is the one who wants his space, it doesn’t mean that you have to be too available. If he calls you last minute and wants to spend time with you, tell him you already have plans. This will show him that you are not sitting around waiting for him to come around, and you have your own life. This will make you much more attractive to him. Even if you have nothing planned that day, lie. It will be hard to pass up a chance to spend time together, but it will work out in your favor in the long run. When he sees that you have a life outside of him, he will be intrigued. This could make him want to spend more and more time with you, and he won’t need as much space.
#8 Let Him Know Other Men Are Interested
No matter how much your guy wants his space, if he finds out other guys are interested in you, he is going to be jealous. If he starts to worry that some other guy will come and steal your heart, he isn’t going to want as much space. Letting him know that other guys are interested in you can be difficult because you don’t want to sound conceited. If you are telling him that this guy wants you and that guy wants you, it will be a total turnoff. When he calls, you can casually mention another guy asking you out, then laugh it off. This will plant the seed of insecurity. Soon, he is going to forget about wanting his space so that he doesn’t end up losing you to this other guy.
#9 Give Him His Space, and Spice Up the Relationship
When your guy decides that he needs some space, you need to remind him why you are together when he wants to see you. After some time has passed, he will call to ask you to do something together. Hanging out together binge-watching Netflix can be fun, but it isn’t going to spice things up and remind him of the fun he once had with you. Instead, take a trip somewhere. Nothing can breathe life into a relationship like a romantic getaway. If you don’t have the time or money to take a mini-vacation with your guy, spend the day doing something adventurous that you know he enjoys. This will remind him of how fun you can be. You can hold his hand and shower him with kisses during your time together. This will remind him how great you are, and he will miss you later.
#10 Be Happy and Positive
Nobody wants to be with a miserable, negative person. If you have agreed to give him space, being negative and miserable when you talk and see each other will just push him further away. Even if his request for space is killing you inside, you can’t show it. When you do get to talk or see each other, you need to be as happy and upbeat as possible. Your happiness and positive attitude will rub off on him. When you aren’t spending time together, he is going to remember how you made him feel during your time together, and he will want to feel that more often. Soon, he won’t be needing as much space.
#11 Make Him Laugh
Whether you are talking on the phone, texting, or spending some time together in person, you should try to make him laugh. Everyone loves to laugh and have fun. If you show your guy that you can make him laugh and have fun, he is going to want to spend more time with you. When you aren’t around, and he isn’t laughing as much, he is going to start to miss you.
#12 Take a Weekend Trip With Your Friends
If you are struggling to give him the space that he needs, you should distract yourself. Let him know that you and your friends are going to take a weekend trip. This will show him that you respect his wishes and are willing to give him space, and it will also show him that you have a life outside of him. If he is like most guys, he is going to miss you after the first night. Don’t be surprised if you get a phone call from him on Sunday, asking you on a date.
#13 Give Him Space With His Friends
If your guy tells you that he wants to go out with his friends, respect that. If you put up a big fight about him wanting to see his friends, it will make him want even more time away from you. Rather than getting upset, give him your blessing. Let him know that you are okay with him going out with his friends and that you will use this opportunity to spend time with your friends. Being agreeable will show him that you aren’t clingy, and you have a life of your own. When you do go out with your friends, don’t “accidentally show up” at the place where your guy is. This will backfire. You do your thing and let him do his, and he will respect and appreciate you more.
#14 Send Him a Picture Of the Two Of You
Most people have plenty of pictures of themselves and their significant other on their phone. If your guy wants his space, you need to remind him of the fun, romantic times that you have had in the past. After choosing the best picture, send it to your guy with a caption that reads, “Look what I found today!” It won’t make you look like a stalker, and it will remind him of the good times that you spent together. Just make sure that you don’t spend the day sending picture after picture. This will make these memories seem less special because you will look like a stalker. Just one picture of a beautiful moment will do.
#15 Don’t Interrogate or Attack Him
Having the person you love ask for space can be painful, but when you are together, you need to keep your emotions in check. When he wants to talk or spend time with you, the last thing that he wants to to be interrogated about where he has been and who he has been with. You also don’t want to attack him and accuse him of things that he may not have even done. This type of behavior will only reinforce his desire to spend time apart. It is best to let the conversation about what he has been doing happen naturally. You can tell him about how you spent the last couple days, and then follow up by saying, “What have you been up to?” If he says that he hasn’t been doing anything, let it go. Trying to force the information out of him won’t do you any good. As hard as it might be, you should bite your tongue. When he sees that you aren’t crazy and combative, he will want to spend more time with you.
When a guy asks for his space, you should try not to take it personally. He is probably asking for reasons that don’t even involve you. If he didn’t want you, he would end things for good, rather than just asking for space. The best thing you can do in this situation is to remind him of how great you are and try to make him miss you. This is going to take work, time, and patience, but if you follow the tips listed above, it will work in your favor. Soon enough, he won’t be needing the space that he needed before, and you will have proven what a cool chick and great girlfriend you really are.