How To Stop Thinking About Someone

How To Stop Thinking About Someone

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Anyone who has ever gone through a breakup knows how hard it can be. Mourning a breakup can be tragic. When a relationship ends, you need to learn to live as a single person again. You will no longer have your ex around to talk to, to do things with, and to love. This can be very hard.

If you have been through a breakup, you know how hard it is to forget about your ex. This can be very hard, and unfortunately, the only way that you will be able to move on from the relationship and your ex fully is to stop thinking about them. This is easier said than done. You aren’t actively trying to think about them, but hundreds of times during the day, they will pop into your mind. Over time, you will start to think about them less and less, but it is right after the relationship ends that you will need to stop thinking about them. If you can get your ex out of your mind, you will be able to get over them sooner.

If you are having trouble with the breakup and you are obsessively thinking about your ex, here are some tips to help you stop. The sooner your ex is out of your mind, the sooner you can get over them and move on with your life.

1- Stop Texting Them

After a breakup, it can be difficult to let things go. If your relationship ended suddenly and it wasn’t what you wanted, you are going to want to text them. This is a bad idea. Texting your ex can be dangerous because it can quickly become an obsession. If you don’t know your ex’s phone number by heart, delete their number. This will make it impossible for you to text them. If you know the number by heart, try your best not to text. If you are going out drinking with the girls, hand your phone over to a friend who you trust at the beginning of the night. The last thing you want is to wake up to the hundreds of drunk texts that you sent to your ex. This is something that you need to do until you feel strong enough that you no longer want to text them.

2- Don’t Stalk Them On Social Media

The invention of social media has made it possible for us to see what our exes are doing without even being around them. If you are trying to forget your ex and move on with your life, stalking them on social media won’t help. You may think that checking up on them on social media will be helpful, but it won’t. Nothing good will come out of it. Chances are, you are going to see photos of your ex out having fun with their friends, which can hurt. Even worse, you could see pictures of your ex spending time with another girl, which will break your heart. The longer you stalk them, the longer they will be part of your life. The best thing that you can do is delete them from all social media. This will prevent you from seeing their posts that can be harmful to your mental health. If the day comes that you are sure that you are over your ex and you just want to see how they are doing, you can always send a friend request later.

3- Try Dating

When a relationship ends, you are going to be hurt and even a bit angry. One way to make the hurt and anger a little easier is to date. Many experts agree that the best way to move on faster is to connect with someone else. This doesn’t mean that you should go from one long-term relationship to another. Going on harmless dates will help you get your mind off your ex. Also, dating will boost your self-esteem, which is likely to happen after being dumped. If you are going to try dating, make sure that the people you are going on dates with know your situation. Make sure they know that you just got out of a serious relationship and are just looking to have fun. This will prevent you from breaking someone else’s heart the way yours was broken. As long as you are honest from the beginning, dating can help you forget about your ex.

4- Replay the Bad Times

When a relationship ends, it is easy to remember all of the good times that you shared. This can be very harmful. If you keep remembering the good times, you will start to romanticize the relationship, and it will make getting over your ex even harder. To forget about your ex faster, you need to do the exact opposite. When you think about your ex, think about the bad times you had together. Relive the fights and the mean things that they did for you. Your mind is a very powerful thing. If you actively relive the bad times that you shared rather than the good ones, eventually, you will realize that the breakup was for the best. Once you reach this point, you will forget them.

5- Spend Time With Friends

Sitting at home alone isn’t going to help you forget your ex. It will actually do the exact opposite. Sitting alone will allow you to dwell on your ex and the relationship that you treasured. If you get out of the house and spend time with your friends, you will have less time to think about your ex and your failed relationship. When you start spending more time with your friends, you will have the kind of fun that you didn’t have when you were in a relationship. These opportunities and new experiences will help you see that you don’t need your ex to live a happy life.

6- Go To the Gym

After a breakup, laying in bed and eating ice cream may sound good, but it will cause more harm than good. Dwelling on your relationship is bad, and eating high-calorie comfort foods is even worse. Rather than going down this road, do the exact opposite. To forget about your ex sooner, get off the couch, and go to the gym. Exercise can help relieve stress and release endorphins that will make you feel happy. When you are working out sweating to the music, you won’t have time to think about your ex. Best of all, if you do run into your ex one day, you will have a smokin hot body. This can be the best revenge.

7- Be Smart About Your Belongings Your Ex Has

If your ex has some of your belongings, you need to be smart about it. If you left a toothbrush, a couple of hair ties, and an old sweatshirt at their house, leave it there. These are things that you don’t really need, and getting your stuff back will just drag out the breakup. If you left important things at their house such as jewelry, clothes you love, or anything that can’t be replaced, be smart when getting these things back. You don’t want to use getting your stuff back as an excuse to see your ex again. This will make forgetting them even more difficult. If you really want your things back, ask a friend to contact your ex and pick up your things for you. The last thing that you should do is see them again.

8- Remove All Reminders Of Your Ex

If you leave things around your house that remind you of your ex, you are never going to forget about them. Start by taking all photos of them out of your home. Next, delete the pictures of the two of you together that are on your phone. If you aren’t ready to delete them yet, put them in a file where you don’t need to see them each time you open the camera roll on your phone.

Next, you need to get rid of the things that they gave you. If they bought your jewelry, you should consider selling it. Wearing the jewelry every day will make you think about them every day. If they bought clothes for you, you should sell them as well. You can use the money that you made from the sale to buy something new for yourself. If you get rid of the physical reminders of your ex, the mental reminders will fade much faster.

9- Focus On You

When you are in a relationship, most of your free time is spent with your significant other. When things end, you have just you. This is the perfect time to focus on yourself and things that can benefit you. Now that you don’t have a significant other to go home to, start working overtime and go for a promotion. If you have always wanted to take up a sport or take a class, the best time to do it is after a breakup. Not only will this help keep your mind off your ex, but you will learn to love your new life as a single person.

10- Don’t Self-Medicate

After a breakup, your friends are going to want to take you out for a night of drinking. There is nothing wrong with drowning your sorrows the first couple nights, but you can’t make it a habit. Alcohol is a depressant, and getting drunk every day will only make things worse. Not only will it make you more depressed, but it can also result in a whole new set of issues that you will eventually need to deal with.

11- Change Your Look

One thing that can make you feel better after a breakup is a makeover. The new single you deserve a new look. There are several ways that you can do this. You can go out and buy some new clothes, and change up your style. If you are feeling really brave, you can get a completely different hairstyle. A fresh new look is a great way to put the past behind you and start planning your future.

12- Don’t Blame Yourself

when your ex ends the relationship, it isn’t uncommon to blame yourself. It is easy to fall into the trap of sitting around, thinking of all the things that you could have done differently. Rather than blaming yourself for the end of the relationship, blame your ex. They were the one who ended things and wasn’t willing to make it work. You can even blame the relationship itself. If you don’t blame yourself for the end of the relationship, you can move on faster without any guilt.

13- Talk To Someone

When going through a breakup, you are going to need someone to talk to. Even if you don’t want their advice, venting about your ex and your struggles can be very therapeutic. If you are going to let it all out, make sure that you are talking to someone you trust. It should be a good friend who will keep your conversations to themselves and who won’t get annoyed by the conversations. While it is great to talk to someone about your feelings, make sure that it isn’t the only thing that you talk about. If you let your relationship and your ex dominate every conversation you have, you will never get over it.

14- Let Yourself Go Through the Grieving Process

If you don’t allow yourself to grieve the end of your relationship, you are never going to move on truly. There are five stages of grief, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. You need to let yourself go through each of these steps if you are going to forget your ex. Don’t be surprised if you jump from acceptance back to depression. This is normal. The key is to allow yourself to feel what you feel without any guilt. Grieving the end of a relationship doesn’t make you weak; it will actually make you stronger in the end.

15- Avoid Time Limits

After a breakup, it isn’t uncommon to tell yourself that in a certain amount of time, you will feel better. This is a mistake. If you reach the time limit and you are still having trouble moving forward, it will make things worse. You can’t put a time limit on grief and sadness. The best thing that you can do is let yourself grieve in your own time.

16- Avoid His Favorite Hangouts

When you are trying to get over your ex, running into them won’t help. If you are going out with your friends, it is best to avoid your ex’s favorite places. A run-in with the ex will only upset you and ruin your night. When you consciously avoid running into him, it doesn’t mean that you are weak and hiding. It just means that you are doing your best to avoid a painful situation.

17- Avoid Mutual Friends

Many couples have mutual friends in common. Right after a breakup, it is best to avoid your mutual friends. If you go out with these people, there is a good chance that you could run into your ex. Also, it isn’t a good idea to surround yourself with these people early on. You are going to need to talk about your breakup and your ex, and mutual friends aren’t the people to do this with. This doesn’t mean that you need to cut these friends out of your life completely. You just need to take a little break. Also, make sure that these friends understand why you are temporarily distancing yourself from them. If they are real friends, they will understand. When you are feeling a bit stronger and that you have moved on a bit, you can start spending time with them again.

18- Avoid Favorite Places You Had As a Couple

All couples have “their places.” When you break up, going to these places will bring up beautiful memories of your time together, which can be very painful. If you had a favorite restaurant, don’t go there. If you spent weekend days in the park, find another park to go to. You don’t need to avoid these places for the rest of your life; just wait until you are feeling stronger. When you genuinely feel that you have moved on, you can return to these places without getting sad and depressed.

19- Take the “No Contact” Rule Seriously

The only way to forget your ex and get over them is to cease all contact. One way to do this is to block their phone number. If your ex wants to talk to you, they won’t be able to call or text if their number is blocked. You need to understand that no contact means absolutely no contact. You might think that sending the occasional text or making the occasional phone call will be harmless, but it’s not. Any communication that you have with your ex will put them back on the front burner. When you make the no contact rule, you need to take it seriously and stick to it 100 percent.

20- Keep Reminding Yourself That It’s Over

The only way to get over your ex is to keep reminding yourself that it is over. If you have it in the back of your mind that you will get back together one day, you will never forget your ex. Thinking that it will happen someday might make you feel better for a few minutes, but it will be very harmful in the long run. If you keep telling yourself that it really is over for good, you will be able to move on faster.

Breakups are incredibly painful. Some people compare a breakup to a death. In a sense, there was a death. The death of the relationship. If you don’t take the necessary steps to forget your ex and move on, you never will. Some couples who break up eventually get back together, but this is the exception and not the rule. If you are going to live a happy, fulfilling life after the relationship ends, you need to follow the steps listed above. If you do everything right, eventually, you will be able to move on. You deserve to be happy. Until you put your ex and the relationship in the past, this won’t happen.

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